Have you ever dated someone who was always
depressed, no matter what you did?
Some people have a great deal invested in being
down in the dumps all the time - and don't you
dare try to change their mind.
For several months, I dated an art teacher. He had
one particular hang-up - he did not like the holidays.
He did not want to have anything to do with celebrating
Christmas. Why? Because it depressed him.
So unfortunately, we happened to be dating at holiday
time. I was not supposed to get him anything. We couldn't
celebrate anything. It "depressed" him.
Some people do wallow in misery because they are
more comfortable being miserable than being happy!
Another thing about some people like this - they like
the alarmed, concerned attention it brings out in others!!
If you are in a relationship with one of these Joes, or Jills,
I want you to know that you cannot make him or her happy!
In fact, your own happiness will be a constant reminder to
him of how depressed he is - and intends to remain, thank
you very much!!
So please do not spend your life trying to make someone happy
who does not WANT to be happy - it's a little game some people
play. It's a great way to get a lot of attention and nurturing!
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